It is commonplace for an adult child to come to our elder care office feeling exasperated due to the perceived stubbornness of his/her parent.  The adult child is attempting to help the parent receive needed care at home or attempting to convince the parent to transition to an assisted living community.  The parent feels he/she is fine on their own, demands the home health aid to leave the home, and/or refuses to go to an assisted living community.  What can the adult child do under these circumstances? Kaiser Health News recently published an article entitled “Parenting Your Aging Parents When They Don’t Want Help”.  The article provided practical tips to help respond to this common frustration of the part of the adult child and will help the child understand the parent’s perspective.

If you, as the adult child, find yourself in such a situation, we can help facilitate the proper care situation, and determine how that care will be paid for.           

About Jerry

Jerold E. Rothkoff, a practicing New Jersey and Pennsylvania attorney, is the Principal of the Rothkoff Law Group, an elder care law firm. Jerry dedicates his practice to serving clients in the areas of life care planning, long-term care planning, Medicaid & VA benefits, and advocacy for the elderly and disabled. He is past President of the NJ Chapter of the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys, former chair of the elder law section of the NJ State Bar Association, and past President of the Life Care Planning Law Firm Association. Jerry continues to be an outspoken advocate for the rights of the elderly and disabled. He writes for and gives presentations regularly to attorneys and other professionals about legal issues related to seniors and those with disabilities. Jerry’s community activities include the Twilight Wish Foundation, the Delaware Valley Stroke Council, the Alzheimer’s Association, as well as numerous other advocacy groups. When not in the office, Jerry spends time with his wife, Erica, and their five children, eighteen-year old identical twin girls, Liza and Julia, fifteen-year old fraternal twin boys, Evan and Gregory, and six-year old Aitan.

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