Reflections of a Death Doula: Rethinking End of Life

National Death Doula Day holds so much excitement and anticipation for me this year. I look back on the past two years and, while it feels like a lifetime ago, I still remember every step of the journey to get to where we are today. Working as an Elder Care Coordinator with Rothkoff Law Group, we acknowledge there have always been challenges within the healthcare system, but the pandemic intensified these challenges, particularly for our clients, the healthcare community, and me. Too many of our clients were dying alone. Their families were scared and turned to us for answers that [...]

2024-04-19T11:43:50-04:00April 18, 2024|

Elder Law and Digital Assets Planning for the Digital Afterlife

Estate planning has evolved beyond physical assets and financial accounts. Digital assets, including social media accounts, digital currencies, and online identities, have become integral parts of our lives. Yet, many overlook these assets in their estate plans, leading to complications and confusion for heirs. Understanding elder law and digital assets planning is important in ensuring that all aspects of your estate are managed according to your wishes after you pass away. Including Digital Assets in Your Estate Planning Digital assets encompass a range of online and digital accounts and properties, from email and social media accounts to digital music libraries, [...]

2024-03-14T11:18:59-04:00March 14, 2024|

The Death with Dignity Act

The Death with Dignity Act often sparks controversy and brings to the forefront important questions about the role of doctors in end-of-life care. The American Medical Association defines “death with dignity” or “medical aid in dying” (MAID) as when a physician offers "the necessary means and/or information" to assist a patient in choosing to end their own life.” Throughout this blog the terms “death with dignity” and “medical aid in dying” will be used interchangeably. What constitutes dying with dignity varies from person to person. It is a highly personal perspective. For instance, if someone believes that dying in a confused [...]

2024-03-08T10:52:43-05:00December 21, 2023|

How Beautiful It Can Be To Let The Dead Go

October has always been one of my favorite times of the year. I allow fall to remind me that things come to an end and that they can still be beautiful. I always think of the quote, “The leaves are about to show us how beautiful it can be to let the dead go.” It also helps that Halloween is my favorite holiday. As the excitement of Halloween has come to a close this year, I can’t help but think of another holiday our neighbors to the South have just celebrated. In the United States, we typically mourn loved ones, [...]

2024-03-08T10:53:08-05:00November 2, 2023|

Dying at Home Versus in a Hospital: Making Informed End-of-Life Care Decisions

In the final stages of life, the decisions about where a loved one should spend their last moments become both deeply personal and profound. The transition from life to death is a delicate journey, and making informed choices about end-of-life care is crucial. One of the most important decisions to consider is whether to have the person die at home or in a hospital. This article will explore the details of this choice, looking at the benefits and drawbacks of dying at home versus a hospital. The goal is to help individuals and families decide the best choice for their [...]

2024-03-08T11:07:22-05:00August 24, 2023|

End-of-Life Support: Caring for a Loved One Facing Death

Supporting a loved one facing death is a challenging and emotional journey. It can bring uncertainty, fear, and sadness, making the situation overwhelming. However, with some preparation, this experience can become more manageable and a time of connection and closeness.    Watching someone you care about nearing the end of their life can trigger various emotions like helplessness, grief, and even anger. Dealing with your feelings of loss while providing end-of-life support and strength to your loved one may be tough, as emotions can change from day to day. It takes strength and resilience to work through this difficult time [...]

2024-03-08T11:00:06-05:00July 28, 2023|

Understanding the Role of a Death Doula in End of Life Care

The role of a death doula, also known as an end-of-life doula, is to support and improve the end-of-life experience for individuals and their families. Death doulas have been around for a long time, and their practices have deep historical roots. However, in recent years, the role of a death doula has gained recognition for providing support and comfort during the aging and dying process, and many people are still unaware of what a death doula is and what we do. A death doula is a non-medical professional who offers compassionate holistic care at the end of life. We provide [...]

2024-03-08T11:01:58-05:00July 7, 2023|

Human Composting: The New Green Burial Movement

What is human composting, and is it a viable option for end-of-life? As an end-of-life doula, one of my goals is to bring awareness and intimacy back to caring for loved ones at the end of life and after they have taken their last breath. Steering away from the "traditional" way we have been dealing with death can give us the ability to care for our dead and dying in a way that allows us to honor them, work through fears and emotions related to death, promote healthy grieving, and bring closure to loved ones. In September, California's governor Gavin [...]

2024-03-08T11:20:45-05:00November 11, 2022|

Understanding the Difference Between Hospice and Palliative Care

When speaking with families, I am often asked, “What is the difference between hospice and palliative care?” These two terms are often used interchangeably, but it is important to understand there is a distinction between the two. Both hospice and palliative care are available for an individual who is suffering from a chronic disease, such as but not limited to dementia, congestive heart failure (CHF), chronic obstructive pulmonary disease (COPD), and/or cancer. The goal of both hospice and palliative care is to focus on symptom management and ensuring the patient’s comfort. So, what is the difference between hospice and palliative [...]

2024-03-08T11:23:11-05:00September 23, 2022|

The End-of-Life Doula: A New Approach to Death Positivity

Francis Bacon once said, “It is as natural to die as to be born.” Does the thought of that make you uncomfortable? If it does, you are not alone. Death is a very uncomfortable subject for many people. The fact that we will die someday is one thing we all have in common, so why are we so uncomfortable thinking and talking about death? As a care coordinator at Rothkoff Law Group, I work with many clients and families around end-of-life issues. I recently completed the End-of-Life Doula course through the International End of Life Doula Association (INELDA). One of [...]

2024-03-08T11:23:44-05:00September 16, 2022|
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